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October 26th, 2012 at 06:44 pm

well, I know it's not that long since I wrote my last entry, but I've just been thinking about stuff and hey, here is as good a place to write it down as any. and it is at least vaguely financial. and I really just need a place to rant lol.

a friend of mine has been staying with me for 2 months now, and in that time has only given me $100. he has a full time job paying $12 an hour yet INSISTS that he doesnt make enough money to pay rent or pay bills. he gave me this whole little sob story about how he couldnt afford his apartment anymore because they raised his rent, plus the amount of child support he has to pay, and he owes money to the IRS.

of course with me being a sucker, I felt bad and offered him a place to stay while he got stuff caught up. We had agreed that since he would be sleeping on the couch and not really be keeping any of his things here that he would only pay me half of the utility bills, half of the groceries and then $120 for rent. and like I said previously ... since he's been here he's only given me $100.

I mean, if he really truly didn't have the money I would probably let it slide. But he's been going on trips every weekend, plus spent $300 on action figures. then tells me this week that he doesnt have money to give me for this month because "his paychecks werent as much as he was expecting".

now maybe it's just me but shouldnt he have made sure he had the money to give me for his rent before going on all of his trips? oh and then I find out he hasnt been paying his child support, nor the money he owes to the IRS. so basically he just wants to be a mooch.

i keep talking to him about it, but every time I bring it up he gets defensive saying "he doesnt make enough money" and "cant afford to get an apartment of his own" .. his parents live out of town and he's been lying to them saying that he has his own 2 bedroom apartmentand that all he does is work and pay bills, he lies to his ex (the child's mother) and says that he cant give her the child support because all of his money is going to bills and the IRS!

i know I've been stupid to let him stay but I told him a few weeks ago that he has until the 2nd to get out because I am not a sugar mama. I have enough of my own debt and bills to worry about without having to support someone else that is fully capable of taking care of themselves.

Anyhow.. if anyone has any helpful comments or suggestions I'd love to hear them. I don't know if I should try to fight with him for the money that he owes me or just get him out of my house and be done with it.

Just realised this entry is like a novel.

Good day!

11 Responses to “uh, ok”

  1. MonkeyMama Says:

    Kick him out and be done with it. If he isn't paying child support or IRS he is not going to pay you. If it were me, I would let it go and consider it a lesson.

    Maybe send him a letter that there is a day he needs to be out by (I just know legally you have to give notice - depends on state). So do you what you need to document in case you have to have him forcibly removed. I presumre once he realizes you are no longer a sucker, he will find someone else to smooch off of. Here's to hoping.

  2. creditcardfree Says:

    I'd focus on getting him out...don't let him stay longer, even if he pays you what is owed. I would tell him what is owed and the date he needs to be out by. Change the locks if necessary. I'd let the money go if it doesn't get paid and chalk it up as a learning experience.

  3. ceejay74 Says:

    If he doesn't give you the money, say "fine, I'll take the action figures." You could sell them on eBay and recoup something! Big Grin

  4. North Georgia Gal Says:

    I agree. Get rid of him. If he isn't paying the IRS or child support you will never see any money from him. You should send him a certified letter telling when to be out in case like MM said, you have to forcibly evict him. He will probably come up with excuses as to why he can't move out.

  5. starfishy Says:

    agree with the others - let him out of the house ASAP...you are definitely not going to change him. i wouldn't even let him stay until the 2nd! good luck...

  6. Joan.of.the.Arch Says:

    I would be incensed. A liar, a freeloader, a guy who doesn't support his kids, doesn't pay his taxes, doesn't seek to pay his own way, & buys dolls before his own most basic needs. Incredible. Infantile.

    He has already gotten his money's worth at your place.

    Lock the doors.

  7. kristinxmarie Says:

    He's out of town yet again this weekend. I'm really considering not letting him back in on Monday when he gets back.

  8. creditcardfree Says:

    Sounds like a good plan...have the locks changed if necessary.

  9. Looking Forward Says:

    Sorry buddy - out on the first. How can you trust/respect someone who buys crap before taking care of his CHILD!!! What a douche.

  10. PNW Mom Says:

    Agree with all the others. If he whines about you kicking him out, ask him point blank how he could afford to buy $300 worth of action figures and take all these weekend trips if he can't afford to live on his own and take care of his other obligations? Tell him he doesn't have his priorities straight and to get out! You do NOT need to feel bad about this....he is NOT your friend....friends don't treat people like he is treating you. Good luck!

  11. kristinxmarie Says:

    PNW Mom ... I asked him that ... his response "i've paid thousands and thousands of dollars in rent the past 4 years, i deserve to have some fun while i can before i get another apartment" so basically ... he admitted that he's being an irresponsible ass.

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